dimanche 31 mars 2013

Aujourd'hui

Traduction: euh... moi ! (Edith) :-)

« Nous », par Édith - 2013

Aujourd'hui, c'est Pâques pour certaines personnes, un dimanche pour certaines personnes, le printemps qui arrive pour beaucoup de gens, mais pour moi, aujourd'hui, c'est aujourd'hui!

François Bertrand

L'Élégante
Goupilles de canettes de boisson gazeuse et fil de laiton
148 cm x 50 cm x 50 cm
2011

cr. photo: Édith Chabot-L

Aujourd'hui, il fait beau et le ciel est bleu. Il y a quelques nuages, et c'est ok.
Ahurissant !, n'est-ce pas ?
Aujourd'hui, mon fils a partagé un peu de son chocolat avec moi. C'est gentil de sa part. J'aime vraiment le chocolat végétalien noir. Maintenant, je vais manger un pamplemousse, et prendre un smoothie vert. Avec des câlins, c'est tout ce dont j'ai besoin pour être heureuse!

vue du sol
détail de la manche... pour apprendre à le faire un jour !

Guillaume Tardif

Le modèle de l’année
Carton, ruban adhésif et miroirs
145 cm x 76 cm x 76 cm
2011
cr.photo: Édith Chabot-L

Aujourd'hui, je prends le temps de voir que mes journées sont bien remplies avec des centaines de moments différents et que je peux choisir de remplir chacun d'eux avec quelque chose de gentil, amusant, joyeux, coloré... ou pas. Quand une émotion me vient, je m'étends un moment, sur le sol (si possible), et j' attends que ça passe de mon cerveau à travers mon corps. Ensuite, j'enchaîne avec un autre moment de travail joyeux, et de musique ou quelques pas de danse, si j'en sens le besoin.

dans une vitrine, rue Saint-Jean
 

Aujourd'hui, je prends le temps de réfléchir à ce que j'aime faire: écouter de la musique, danser, chanter, dessiner, peindre (dans les fenêtres), nettoyer, balayer le plancher, jouer, me balader ou faire de la randonnée en forêt (ou parfois dans les villes), voyager avec mes amours, écrire (j'écris beaucoup), blogger, organiser des événements, écouter mes enfants, mon mari, mes amis et les gens, en général, quand ils ont besoin d'attention, pour les aider à sentir qu'ils peuvent agir de façon aimante et attentionnée. Je me vois comme un agent de changement.

Aujourd'hui, comme chaque jour, mon mantra est: « changer le monde ... pour la VIE! »©
 
Rue Sainte-Anne (p.s. 200$)
 



Aujourd'hui, comme tous les autres jours, j'ai beaucoup de projets en cours, et d'autres pour après. J'ai toujours un grand nombre de projets en tête et j'essaie de voir comment les accomplir tous avec mon amour pour la vie comme unique critère. Ça a l'air simple, mais ça ne l'est pas toujours. Organiser la  tournée de conférences de André Stern dans ma province, au Canada, une première en Amérique du Nord, est tout un défi, et j'aime ça (même si parfois je suis fatiguée, mais heureuse d'avoir trouvé une collaboratrice dans la personne d'une amie - merci Laurie ! - qui me donne un coup de main.)

devant le Château Frontenac


Le toit cuivré, devenu brun chocolat après un seul hiver, comme on le disait ici.
Aujourd'hui, en ce moment, j'entends «Have a nice day», de Bon Jovi, dans les écouteurs de mon fils. :)Aujourd'hui, je vais marcher dans les bois, près de la rivière, avec mon fils, et faire un bon souper pour ma famille, parce que je les aime, j'aime partager ma vie avec eux. (révision: nous avons finalement décidé de visiter une galerie d'art, se promener dans le 'Vieux', et manger au resto.)

À ma demande, mon amoureux est allé voir les anges
et une gente dame l'a aidé à redescendre
 

Vue de la Terrasse Dufferin

Aujourd'hui, je veux partager ceci:

S'il m'arrive d'être dans une situation où je suis incertaine quant à l'action à poser, j'essaie d'aller dans le sens de la vie, avec la vie, pas contre elle. De trouver deux options (ou plus) et de choisir la meilleure (une idée de Sandra Dodd, que j'apprécie car ça permet de vraiment agir, et d'aller vers mieux, chaque fois, et de façon durable).    
 
Je vais avec ce qui aide la vie, donc les êtres vivants (humains, animaux, plantes, arbres, eau, air, ...) car j'en fais partie, et qu'autrement je ne me sens pas dans le bien-être. Je préfère agir dans le sens de la vie plutôt que dans un sens qui peut rendre malade, blesser, ou tuer.

on regarde en bas...

Le parc Montmorency

Plus de bien-être apporte plus de bien-être. Partout. Pour tous.

Plus d'amour apporte, et donne, plus d'amour. Partout. Pour tous.

L'amour ! 
Aujourd'hui, et chaque jour, je nous souhaite à chacun de « Passer une bonne journée ! » :-)

Edith 

samedi 30 mars 2013

Idées fausses sur le unschooling

Traduction de Misconceptions about unschooling 
Édith Chabot-L. - J'OSE la vie !

Voici une tirade poétique publiée en avril 2012 par Alex Polikowsky sur la liste de discussion Basics Unschooling 
J'ai fait quelques corrections grammaticales et une clarification, parce que quand Alex se passionne, ses racines non-natives-anglophones peuvent s'agiter un peu, mais j'aime ce qu'elle a écrit, et le voici presque exactement tel que publié à l'origine (merci à la fois Schuyler et Joyce de me l'avoir fait suivre). ~ Sandra Dodd 
tournage AS3 - scène des douanes - 2008 (photo: J'OSE la vie !)
« Vivre le unschooling ne signifie pas de laisser les enfants prendre soin d'eux-mêmes ou s'arranger seuls, sans aide ni conseils; 
ce n'est pas les laisser faire ce qu'ils veulent; 
ce n'est pas une question de liberté;
ce n'est pas que dire oui;
ce n'est pas les laisser découvrir les choses par eux-mêmes;
ce n'est pas de l'apprentissage conduit par l'enfant.

composition de musique de film - 2007 (photo: J'OSE la vie !)

Le unschooling prend plus:
- plus de présence,
- plus d'accompagnement,
- plus d'attention,
- plus de conscience,
- plus de connexion,
- plus de réflexion et de questionnement,
- plus de choix, et de meilleurs choix.

CD musique du film AS3 - 2007-2008 (photo: J'OSE la vie !)

balade sous la pluie 2008 (photo: J'OSE la vie !)
Certaines personnes viennent vers le unschooling parce qu'elles lisent des blogs ou des idées de familles qui s'amusent et s'affairent à des choses amusantes et ne s'enlisent pas dans un programme d'études ou des règles et du contrôle.
Essipit - 2006 (photo: J'OSE la vie !)









Elles peuvent lire un peu et penser que tout ce qu'il y a à faire est de ne pas avoir de règles:
pas de programme d'études;
pas d'heure du coucher; 
pas de contraintes de télévision, d'ordinateur ou de nourriture.
Grandes Bergeronnes - 2006 (photo : J'OSE la vie !)
Ce qu'ils ne lisent pas, ce sont toutes les choses qu'un parent unschooling FAIT.
Père-fils - Cape Canaveral - 2008 (photo : J'OSE la vie !)
observation de cheveux au microscope - 2007 (photo : J'OSE la vie !)
Les parents qui font le choix du unschooling sont assis et jouent à des jeux d'ordinateurs avec leurs enfants.
Ils sont présents, attentifs, connectés.
Ils facilitent, guident, préviennent, sèment, partagent, découvrent ensemble. 
Ils apprennent aussi, tout en créant un environnement d'apprentissage.
Ils sont intéressés et intéressants.
montage d'une étagère-serre - 2008 (photo : J'OSE la vie !)
participation à la construction d'une maison écologique 2010 (J'OSE la vie !)

Donc, si le unschooling est nouveau pour vous, Sandra a une bonne suggestion:

« Lisez un peu. Essayez un peu. Attendez un peu. Regardez. »
expérience de viscosité (photo : J'OSE la vie !)
 Il faut du temps pour y arriver. 
J'ai lu sur le sujet et appliqué le 'unschooling' dans ma maison pendant près de huit ans et j'essaie toujours de bien saisir. 
Il faut du temps pour déscolariser. 
La plupart d'entre nous ont un minimum de treize années de scolarité et certains beaucoup plus. Posez des questions et écoutez les réponses tout simplement, relisez-les, réfléchissez-y, relisez-les encore, essayez-les, attendez un peu et regardez !

viscosité - 2 (photo : J'OSE la vie !)
Tout cela pour dire que si vous pensez que quelqu'un vient vers le unschooling en pensant qu'il sera juste assis là pendant que les enfants se débrouillent tout seuls et que ce sera du gâteau, détrompez-vous ! 
Cela ne veut pas dire que ce n'est pas merveilleux et, oui, plus facile et plus paisible, mais pas nécessairement de la façon dont plusieurs pourraient le penser. »  ~Alex Polikowsky

navette spatiale par Olivier - 2006 (photo : J'OSE la vie !)

vendredi 29 mars 2013

Un certain débit ou rythme

A certain flow or rythm, par Aiden-Kathleen Wagner
Traduction: J'OSE la vie !


allaitement en forêt
« Je pense qu'à écouter et essayer de travailler en partenariat avec votre enfant, vous trouverez un certain débit ou rythme ....

« Je pense que ce dont la plupart des enfants ont soif, bien plus que de routine, est d'être capable de sentir que leurs besoins physiques et émotionnels vont être satisfaits au bon moment et de manière appropriée. Où il n'y a pas la communication et la sensibilité, ils peuvent s'accrocher à la routine comme étant la seule façon de s'assurer que ces besoins sont satisfaits, mais lorsque vous essayez d'écouter et de comprendre et d'être un partenaire, les routines peuvent devenir un obstacle à une meilleure relation. » ~Aiden-Kathleen Wagner

Jérôme aux côtés d'Awena - oct. 2012
Note: J'ai choisi ces photos parce qu'elles témoignent bien de ce partenariat, et de ce qu'il apporte. Jérôme a été allaité, des années, sans horaire ni routine, selon ses besoins à lui. 
De même, il vit sa vie, remplie d'apprentissages car c'est indissociable, sans horaire ni routine, selon ses besoins et ses enthousiasmes propres.
Le unschooling, c'est la suite naturelle de l'attachment parenting, et ça se voit, ça se sent, ça se vit.

Des années plus tard, il a pu voir cette relation dans le quotidien d'Awena et sa maman (et son papa, bien sûr), et il a été touché et heureux de pouvoir partager ces moments de vie avec eux. Il observait beaucoup cette petite fille heureuse, ses nouveaux mots, ses moments de grande concentration, de chants, de danse, de 'jeu', de découvertes, et sa vie joyeuse et simple, avec sa maman présente, sensible, disponible. 
Cette joie, cette simplicité, cet amour dans la relation mèrenfant, on en était éclaboussés nous aussi.
Plus d'amour créé toujours plus d'amour !
Edith 

P.S. Et puis le titre, et l'allaitement... ça coulait de source ! D'autant plus que nous étions au bord de la rivière, lorsque Awena a eu ... soif ! :-)  

jeudi 21 mars 2013

A Life of Learning & Passion, an exclusive interview with grown unschooler André Stern

A Life of Learning And Passion
An interview with grown unschooler and professional musician André Stern
By Edith Chabot-Laflamme, J'OSE la vie !
Original version, in French, is here.
Translation: Edith Chabot-Laflamme
Revision: Catherine Forest and Jean-François Roldan
First published in Life Learning Magazine, Sept-Oct.2012 issue 
Thanks to Wendy Priestnitz

André Stern, his wife Pauline, and their son Antonin by Isabelle Latournerie © 2012.
André Stern is a French musician who grew up without schooling. The interview was conducted by telephone in French in July 2012. The interviewer was in Quebec City, Canada and Stern was in Avignon, France. Stern has written about his unschooled life in two books, available in German, published by Editions Zabert Sandmann (Und ich war nie in der Schule, 2009 - 6thedition, and Mein Vater, mein Freund, 2011).
The first one has been translated into French under the title ...Et je ne suis jamais allé à l'école, published by Actes Sud, 2011. He and his family are featured in this unchoolig news report: www.youtube.com/watch?v=IUey77MKDV8&f.
For more information: http://www.andrestern.com/

On tour in Quebec, Canada: After several lectures in Europe, Andre Stern will also be visiting Quebec in May 2013; for more information, including states and locations, as well as reservations, please visit: http://andrestern.ca

***

Edith: André Stern, you've never been to school, you hold several jobs, you are married and the father of a little boy, how's it going for you today?

Andre: Very well! My childhood, my last forty-one years of childhood and their events are doing very well. I am happy. Of course, this includes the challenges, crises, obstacles, everything that is related to a normal life; I'm not someone who does not know reality of the world. But I am happy. I dare to say it: I'm a happy child.

André Stern as a child - courtesy Arno Stern Institut, Paris.

Edith: You are on tour in Avignon. Are you with your family?

Andre: Voila! We are in Avignon, the three of us together. We have been coming here since 1999. Now, with Antonin, we have a different organization, we follow a different rhythm. We manage to organize our family life. Our little family of three, the extended family of six, and the great theater family now have a new member called Antonin.


Edith: How old is Antonin?

Andre: Antonin is two and a half; he was born in December 2009.


Edith: Do your occupations always allow you to travel with your family?

Andre: Not always with family. There are sometimes many kilometers to cover. We travel a lot, mainly in Europe but also in India, in Africa. We always try to travel as a family, although this is not always possible. For example, recently I had to take four planes and four TGVs [high-speed trains] in four days, which is not something you want a two-year-old child to go through.

As for the trades that I practice, I add a nuance. I find it hard to differentiate trades and hobbies, jobs, livelihoods and dreams; life and learning; family and professional life. It's all very separate in some people but, to me, that is not the case at all. This concept is pretty vague. I practice these occupations that make me very happy; I did not have restrict myself to a single profession, a single direction. Many things are connected. Many occupations have emerged along the way. There are all those occupations that I've always wanted to perform, and some others I do not refer to as professions. Currently, here in Avignon, I am a guitarist, a composer and a performer. I am the co-director, with Giancarlo Ciarapica, of a theater company. We are in Avignon for the theater and music festival. Currently, my occupations are, in order: guitarist, luthier [stringed instrument maker], author, and journalist.

I am also director of the collective "Des hommes pour demain" ["Men for tomorrow"], initiated by Prof. Dr. Gerald Hüther, advanced neurobiology researcher.

Beyond that, I also work with computers, machines, and devices. And I am a close colleague of my father, along with my sister: it is a very wide work that can be described as a job. But right now, my main occupation is being a father: observing, taking note, sharing the childhood of my child.

André Stern as a child - courtesy Arno Stern Institut, Paris.

Edith: Your parents offered you the choice - it is indeed a choice – not to go to school. Your book describes a continuity of your parents' lives in the life of this couple welcoming a child, a cohesion with their respective life experiences. Did you feel it ? How have you experienced that?

Andre: I don't know if it was a choice for me; it was their choice. It is wonderful that parents make choices - this was what drove me to carry this testimony. For most parents, in France, there is no choice: everyone starts with the principle that children must attend school. (And here I must specify that I do not work against school; I work hand-in-hand with people who do school.) What is heartening, is that after reading my book a parent knows the spectrum of possibilities. As for me, I think it is wonderful to be the son of parents who have made choices, but maybe our son will want to go to school. Choice and freedom are different things. One must not give only a choice, one must also give freedom. For example, if we offer a vegetarian the choice between pork and beef, there is a choice, but there is no freedom; there is no freedom to choose what matches his convictions.

Parents make choices, this is where originates the odors, the colors of the home, which is more important than its geography. For my parents, not sending me to school was not an option but the only possible thing. They were both brilliant students - this is not about personal suffering; they had no score to settle with the school. They acted according to their convictions. Mon père, mon ami [My Dad, my friend] is the book (published in German) I wrote with my father where we describe this continuity. He is the son of his father; I am the son of mine. I am moved and delighted that my son was born in this family, in a great continuity, in the presence of my parents (that's how life has made it). I am very grateful to have met with a woman such as Pauline, who shares the same convictions. She doesn't adopt mine; it is not a mutual adaptation, but an encounter. Seeing Antonin evolving, seeing my son with my father is a continuity that is watermark in my life. I live this belatedly, at 41, this is how events have occured in my life.

André Stern as a child - courtesy Arno Stern Institut, Paris.


Edith: When we read your book, we feel this complicity between your parents, a common choice to provide the support, the environment, the tools, to find interesting people who are interested in your passions. What is their philosophy? Or is it rather a lifestyle?

Andre: There is no philosophy, no method. Lifestyle would be closer, but it's mostly and particularly an attitude.

My parents were moved, they saw us grow up, walk, talk, without educational intervention, without prompting, each one at his/her own pace. They still are moved now that they're living a second wave with Antonin and approach his childhood with a tenfold confidence. Their main attitude is observation. In the observation position, one is protected from making mistakes. We no longer have time to think. Driven by curiosity, I observe what will be the next natural step in the spontaneous disposition of the child, in his development, rather than seeking how I could induce the next step.

Anecdote: Antonin began to say: "2, 4, 6." Why? We don't know. When he was hearing a number, he was replying: "2, 4, 6." We are very curious to see what will be the next step. In the world of others, which is not always like ours although we are part of it, someone was a little shocked to see him, beaming, repeating ''2, 4, 6.'' He told us: "You can not let him make such a mistake; he mispronounces, he doesn't count properly. It is your responsibility to show him." He told Antonin: "We must say 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6...."

I rely on modern neurobiology: The child turns to his primary reference persons: his parents. The child expects from them an approval, a green light. It falls within the child. We have a huge responsibility: it is for us to give his spontaneous disposition the acquiescence that he expects; we validate and then all other influences have no hold on him.

So Antonin looked at him and replied: "2, 4, 6." Later, he began to say: "1, 3, 4, 6."

The child has such a desire, such a need for approval, for reference, that he is ready to give up his spontaneous disposition on behalf of whatever receives a good reception from his referees (parents). We can allow the child to develop in his own disposition, or impose our own way: What a huge responsibility!

We knew that, if we did not intervene, another step would come after 2, 4, 6. We want to ensure that his evolution is his personal evolution, and not the result of our intervention. That's what has always driven my parents.

Another part of the attitude involves enthusiasm. Neurobiology tells us of exciting things. I will summarize the history of neurobiology. It was initially thought that we, humans, have different types of brains: fast, slow, stupid, smart. This was convenient and we created categories like under-talented, gifted, etc. Permanently. Some wise guy even had the idea (it was thankfully not pursued!) to sterilize people with an IQ level below a certain figure, to prevent them from reproducing.

In fact, brain develops depending on the use one makes of it. A first discovery showed that the brain area that controls the movement of the thumbs is three times more developed among fifteen-years-oldss of today than of thirty years ago. Do you have an inkling about this? Of course, that's because of texting. Stunning discovery. As a result, scientists decided to treat the brain like a muscle, to make it really big. Since the area that deals with the thumbs has tripled in size, they invented a program to triple the volume of the brain.They tried to have kindergarten children learn five languages, but to their great disappointment, it didn't work.

The key discovery they then made is something we all have always known : The brain develops where it is used with enthusiasm!

Analysed now by scientists, the process is quite clear: enthusiasm acts as a fertilizer for the brain. Where we act with enthusiasm, the brain develops in a spectacular and automatic way. Neurobiology has taken years to prove what we all know by instinct and experience: Enthusiasm is the key. In a state of enthusiasm, nothing is longer inaccessible, learning happens "all by itself". Do you know that small children experience a surge of enthusiasm about every three minutes? In adults, such a surge of enthusiasm arrives only two to three times a year! Children are born as full of enthusiasm. We have no idea what happens when a child grows undisturbed in this primordial and primary state of enthusiasm. My luck - this is anything but a personal merit - is that I can bring new and decisive answers about it.

Now that we agree on the crucial aspect of this necessity, it is good to know that enthusiasm takes time. When, for example, I read an author or when I learned German for 6 hours in a row, nobody came after fifty minutes (the average length of a course in a classroom setting) to tell me that it was over. When we live our enthusiasm over time and with confidence, we deepen our knowledge and understanding, logically, every day. And I was able to experience that this has a spectacular side effect, which is competence.

When we are enthusiastic, our competence increases at high speed. And do you know that competence also has a side effect? It is called achievement, success!

We are ready to trample others, to sacrifice our life in the name of success. We have unlearned many things in the name of success, which is nothing but the side effect of competence, which is, in turn, the side effect of enthusiasm. That's it! What is sold as an end in itself is just a side effect of the side effect of enthusiasm.

André Stern as a child - courtesy Arno Stern Institut, Paris.

Edith: When you were very young, already, your dad gave you a guitar. In the book, you say that for your parents, music is vital, but that they don't play any instrument. You see in this gift a calling, an implicit request?

Andre: Not at all! This was part of what they offered me, like tools, trucks, cars, all sorts of things. The guitar was very important in flamenco, which my father liked. But it was not even a proposal, it was a gift. When you offer a truck to your child, it does not mean you want him to become a trucker.


Edith: So, you have not experienced this omnipresent consumer mentality that is in our culture, where the parent wants to see that what he spent money on is actually being used by his child?

Andre: When you live with your child, it is hard to go wrong on his enthusiasms; my parents noticed that my head was stuck on the floor when someone was playing the guitar on the floor below. If I offer planes to Antonin whenever I see one we like, it is because he loves airplanes, and motorcycles, and cars. And big trucks! That's it! I know he is passionate about those. But if I offer him a sewing kit, it's not what interests him now. By living with them, by observing, we put ourselves from the many mistakes we could make. In fact, we don't have to organize but to be carried away by each other's enthusiasm. And most importantly, every time we try to organize something (sorry for the noise, I'm on the street now, Avignon is loud, I will soon take a quieter street... voila ! you're still there, Edith? - Yes, yes, I am!), we risk imposing our ideas. We therefore avoid great disappointments. The best thing to do is to let go, to not have expectations. This is what protected my parents, not to have expectations.

Anecdote: Antonin loves trucks. I found him a 62 cm long truck, and gave it to him. He said: "ohhhhh!" And he played non-stop for three days with ... the package! We must have this open mind. (He laughs heartily!)

Another anecdote: When I was five or six years old - I wrote about it in the book (note: p. 44) – my dad takes me to the planetarium, and we shared this enthusiasm - him, about things in the sky, and me, about the way things work in the planetarium. Neurobiology calls this "shared attention" - we are together without necessary looking in the same direction.

André Stern, by Pauline Stern

Edith: You speak about photo - and about many other subjects which fascinated you - and make a distinction between learning, autonomous exploration, from specialists' opinion. How important was it to you, as a child, to explore by yourself, at your own pace?

Andre: Because of this I have done things with vehemence, at my own pace, in my own way. Sometimes I took complex detours, as a result, I have never forgotten what I learned. It was not always a straight line, but it was my path. That said, I did not invent the world of topics like string-instrument making or photography. But to have the incredible luck to be under the aegis of the best guitar maker in the world was beyond my craziest dreams! No dream is really inaccessible. After bumping into closed doors with lots of his colleagues, Werni said: "I can show you everything, but I cannot teach you anything." It was wonderful! I did not invent this trade, I did not learn just to pass an exam. What I learned has remained imprinted on me, I have not forgotten anything because it was my path. Such as when I met the number pi. It was complex, I wanted to calculate my truck's speed. I have believed in the pi figure only when I had the strip of paper wrapped around the wheel. It was easier to apply the formula instead of checking on my own. My process was less direct, slower, more complicated, but it was mine and so far it has served me well.

André Stern with Werner Schär - courtesy andrestern.com

Edith: In your book you write about visiting specialty stores, feeling uncomfortable, people looking at you like you were an alien. Some unschoolers say they are looked at that same way sometimes. However, you also say that something in you was on the right track and you seemed pretty sure of yourself when you were really just leaving the teenage years behind. Did your parents help you with that?

Andre: Actually, it wasn't just when I was a teenager. I didn't experience any teenage crisis. The crisis exists only in a certain frame; without the frame, it does not exist.

That look of which I speak, I saw it in the shops, yes, but not in normal life. In normal life, children are more open-minded than we think. For a child, who runs faster, jumps higher, is larger or smaller, are the differences they really are when we do not impose comparison. I've always been a happy member of this society. I lived a life-sized socialization: When one is not confined with people of the same age and lives with many different people, one learns to do things with one another, to combine experiences, competencies, rather than to compete. In the large social bath in which I was immersed, it was much more important to do things with each other rather than against each other. I've never felt different because I live in a world of difference. There was always someone to show me something, or someone to whom I could show some other thing. That eliminates the gap between generations. It does not occur to an elderly person to compare herself to a child; she would rather share enthusiasm. This is precisely what is rewarding. What has led me to my friends is neither our age nor where we live; it is our communities of interest!

If I felt on rails about guitar, it was due to my reference persons, my parents, who gave the green light to who I am, to my process. It is an important role to be the reference person, to have the intention to validate the spontaneous disposition of the child. With neurobiology, we are protected from the discomfort of feeling different; feeling different is desirable, there is no attempt to unify things, to make them alike.

André Stern, luthier - Tamins, Suisse - courtesy andrestern.com

Edith: Your structured learning time began when you were twelve or thirteen years old - guitar lessons, and later, English, algebra, copperware, weaving, dance activities. Was that your request?

Andre: That was always part of my life, with a stronger presence at that age. It was not a structure that I requested; it was neither an organization of my learning; it flowed naturally, stemmed from the rest. There is no freedom without structure. For example, a personal rule may be to play the guitar six hours a day; a family structure may be to wash your hands before eating, or to eat together; a social structure is to drive on the right side of the street. We need structure. And if the algebra class was on Wednesday at 2pm, it was useless to go there on Sunday at 10am. It is a structure that a child understands very well and which reassures him and, precisely, gives him a sense of freedom.


Edith: Your mom accompanied you to Egyptology lessons. For photography and copperware, she discreetly looked for a workshop, an open-minded professional who welcomed you without academic method. This discretion on the part of both of your parents seems to have been an important underlying element in this life without school.

Andre: Discretion is important, yes, like when you have an uncle who is passionate about ties and you conspire all together to surprise him: everyone brings him a tie. It’s the same thing for the beer bottle caps collector. We remain attentive, if we see something interesting, we offer it to him. Freed from expectations, which are deleterious, we can put ourselves in our child's position.


Edith: I come back to music for a moment. People often wonder how to nurture their child's musical talent. They wonder if unschooling provides enough discipline and rigor to prepare for a professional career in music. What do you think about this?

Andre: I never start from me but always from the child. If parents listen to music, or if they play music, the child is steeped in music, but that does not mean he will play music. I would never try to win the child to one of my preferences. If it starts with him, then it's not necessary to try to nurture the child's interest; it just happens, by enthusiasm.

As for discipline, this question makes me laugh. Learning takes place because of the interest we have for things; self-discipline arises from the pleasure one has from doing these things. We believe, wrongly, that discipline is a framework imposed from the outside, that it requires a system that forces the child to do something, to practice. However, the natural discipline comes from the child, from within. It grows out of pleasure and curiosity.

For example, when I practiced the guitar six hours in a row, I was the one who imposed my discipline, my pace, onto my family.

Another example: Antonin is listening to two minutes of Mozart's The Magic Flute. At one point, we see him reacting to the sound of the little bells. He enjoys it and after, he moves a little, he has less desire to be there; then, all of a sudden, he hears the sound of the bells again. So he knows that this sound he appreciates will come back and he is ready to sit still and to wait to hear it again.

It is at this very moment that he is learning self-discipline: "If I sit for two minutes longer, I will have the pleasure of hearing the bells once again," which leads him to want to stay four more minutes, then eight minutes, it's exponential. At his pace, at his own time, he chooses to listen for two more minutes. Now, he listens and watches The Magic Flute every day, Every day! This is an extreme discipline. At one-and-a-half years old, listening and watching The Magic Flute every day is a very high level of discipline – or just natural enthusiasm fully experienced.


Edith: I don't know how it is in France, but here in Quebec, in Canada, in America, (I want to stress that here, we don't know much about unschooling), people have lived within this framework which have been imposed on them, and often they don't come to break free from it and free their children from it.

Andre: One simply has to start from the child, everything becomes simple and enthusiasm becomes "contagious"!


Edith: Your grandfather seemed to be very present, as well as your uncles, some friends of your parents, and also their children. Was this circle a part of the environment your parents offered you? Did they already have their support?

Andre: Not necessarily, there were many doubts on behalf of certain members of the family. Ineradicable convictions are not necessarily shared. But from the moment each person sees that, carried by enthusiasm, there is no need to worry about our children, then, things change.

Arno Stern and André Stern in India - courtesy Arno Stern Institut, Paris.

Edith: Did you ever compare your life with those of other friends or young people of your age?

Andre: What I was seeing of school life was not very tempting. The children never had time to play, they had homework after school ... and as soon as they learned that I was not going to school, they all told me, ''How lucky you are!"


Edith: Did any of your friends test you?

Andre: It has never happened. I repeat it: children are far more open than we think. What matters to a child is to play. And they take note of differences. They did not quantify, nor qualify them.


Edith: Your book is also a call to freedom, and to confidence. You are addressing an adult audience, especially parents, perhaps also teenagers. Do you think parents are lacking confidence in their children?

Andre:This is what characterizes most parents. They believe that if they do not educate their children, they will become illiterate and asocial savages. Yet children are extremely competent. Children are born with the best, the most suitable, and most amazing of learning devices ever invented: play. From then on, there is only room for confidence. Ah! If only you knew how simple things are!

I am talking about extreme competence of the child, the learning capacity of the child, at five years old as well as at eighty-five years old, he has the same capacity of learning. The only thing that defines this enthusiasm is that it leads to competence and then to success. There is nothing more to worry about. I sometimes talk to people who have no qualifications, no diploma, and I tell them that qualifications are not needed but competence is, and that this is the result of enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is free, available to everyone.

I am a practical illustration of the weight of confidence. We must tell this story, so that parents see how much we have to trust children.


Edith: Did your parents or yourself feel any social pressure ?

Andre: Never! Absolutely not. When we feel confident, we naturally move away from people who have different convictions and/or different attitudes, we can choose our friends, like they choose us, by affinity.


Edith: Do you have your own philosophy of life? If so, what is it?

Andre: No. Neurobiology is not a philosophy. It is a support, an indispensable asset. It is not a philosophy, it is an attitude, it is the same as my parents. It is to be in common life, in curiosity, together. Observing. Curious for the next step, not desiring to introduce the next step.

André Stern, by Pauline Stern

These words, which summarize very well the attitude of Andre Stern, conclude the interview.
Andre, thank you very much for granting me this interview while you are in the middle of the Avignon Festival. Thank you for your generosity!

Edith Chabot-Laflamme
J'OSE la vie !